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Are you the smartest person you know?  Do you make more money than all of your friends?  If the answers to these questions are yes, it is time for you to make some new friends.

There is truth in the saying you are who you hang out with.  If the people who you associate with make an average of about $30,000. per year in income, it is safe to say that you make about the same.  If the people you hang around with are negative people who complain all the time, you probably do the same.

We are easily influenced.  You have probably already noticed that you talk the same and even use the same slang as the people you spend the most time with.  It is safe to even go so far as to say that you think the same way they do.

It is so important that we take a good hard look at our associations.  Do these people challenge my thinking in a positive way?  Are they supportive of my big goals and dreams?  Are they positive minded and forward looking?  Are they continuously making improvements in their own life, or are they content to be stuck in the same rut they have been in for years?

If you do have toxic people in your life, get rid of them.  If they are family members, you can at least limit the amount of time you spend with them.

Look to associate and build relationships with people who are doing what you want to do, successful people who you can learn from.  Become friends with people who are making the kind of money you want to make, or who are at least working towards the kind of success that you are working towards.

 You are who your friends are, so pick your friends very carefully. 

When we start to go through and create our daily routine of affirmations and new beliefs, we must be careful to add emotion to the mix.  It is easy to get caught up in simply reciting a list and creating this mundane daily experience which ends up meaning nothing to us. 

A great way to add emotion is to remember back to a positive and empowering experience in your life.  Recite your affirmation or new belief at the height of the feeling of the positive emotion from that experience.  This will allow you to link that great feeling to your new belief or affirmation. 

There are probably certain sights, sounds, scents, or feelings which your mind already links with that memory.  You can use these sensations to bring about the empowering emotions from that experience. 

We have all had great experiences of triumph and success, why not use these past experiences to help create new ones?  Relive the emotions that you experienced during these successful events, then link these powerful feelings to the affirmations and new beliefs you are imprinting in your mind.

Reciting your affirmations and beliefs will soon become a powerful emotional experience instead of an ineffective, mundane routine.

Do you always blame other people when things go wrong?  It seems to be the automatic thing to do.  We are programmed to see others mistakes as opposed to our own. 

But what is really happening when we blame others all the time?

 First, we are opening ourselves up to be blamed by others for their problems.  If you just got passed up for yet another promotion, you may want to blame the boss.  What happens when one day you are the boss?  Will you accept the blame from your employees for their lack of results?  If you are always blaming others for your problems, you will have to accept the blame from them for their problems. 

Second, if you are always placing the blame on other people, you are probably not very popular.  You may have even lost a friend or two because of arguments over whose fault it is.  Wouldn’t you be better served to take your share of the responsibility and work together to fix the problem?

Last but definitely not least, if you are always blaming everyone else,  you are giving up your control.  If someone else is creating your problems, then they are the only ones who can fix your problems.  Wouldn’t it be better if you had that power yourself?  The sooner you can acknowledge that you had a part in creating the mess, the sooner you can begin to fix it.

Although it may seem easier at the time to blame someone else for your problems, you are better off in the long run if you face up to them yourself.  Keep your integrity, keep your friends, keep your power and take your responsibility!

Do you live in the past?  Do the mistakes of yesterday haunt your tomorrow?  We have all made mistakes, but we don’t have to relive them.  Leave them in the past where they belong.

We are very often our own worst enemy, always beating ourselves up.  The key is to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you have made.  They are not who you are, they are simply something that you did.  If you keep reliving them in your mind, the law of attraction will think you want to relive them in your reality.

You have to let them go and stop focusing on them, free yourself to be the person that you want to become.  Your past mistakes should be viewed as merely a learning experience, a way of guiding you to steer clear of repeating them.  Just because you have made the mistake in the past, it doesn’t mean that you are the person that always makes that mistake. 

Even if it is a mistake that you have made repeatedly in the past, it is time to break the cycle.  Decide who you want to be today and focus on becoming that person.  Leave the past where it belongs, in the past.

We all have a set point in our minds which keeps us within our normal range or our comfort zone.  If you make a change in your life which takes you out of that comfort zone, this will send a signal out to your nervous system which your brain interprets as potential danger.  It will then prompt you to make the course corrections necessary to return you to your normal state. 

This works in a very similar way to the thermostat in your home, you set the temperature to whatever you want.  The heat or air conditioning will come on as needed to keep the temperature at the set point. 

So, how then do you change your temperature, or rather change your comfort zone? 

You can send messages to your subconscious mind to change your set point.  This is done by visualizing with the use of emotions what you want your new reality to be.  Your subconscious mind cannot decipher between reality and an imagined reality. 

With consistent and persistent daily visualizations, you will soon have a new set point/comfort zone which will move you closer to achieving your goals.

Have you ever spent time learning about the amazing power of your mind?  One of the incredible tools you possess is called your Reticular Activating System. 

Simply put, your Reticular Activating System (RAS) is a filter that sorts through the four hundred billion bits of information that your brain processes every second.  You are only consciously aware of two thousand bits of this information each second, so your RAS decides which bits of information to present to your conscious mind.

The RAS sorts based on matching the information presented with information already established in your mind, this is the information that it assumes is important to you. 

The exiting part of this, is that you can reprogram your mind to sort the information based on what you want to achieve.  If you spend consistent and persistent time each day visualizing your goal and feeling the feelings of having already achieved your goal, it will start to become familiar to your subconscious mind. 

Your RAS will then start to sort the information presented based on your goal.  Soon, you will start to receive information on how to go about reaching your goal, and be on your way to achieving success.

When faced with adversity in your life, you may find that it causes you to change your focus.  It may be difficult to keep your committments during your time of struggle.  You may even find that you get sidetracked from your goals.

Sometimes events in your life that are difficult require extra attention at least temporarily, but that doesn’t mean you have to completely stop all progress that you are making in reaching your goals.  A little action is better than no action.  If you have to cut the time spent on goal achievement drastically for a short time, it is still better than giving up on your goals altogether.

 Give yourself the time you need to get your life back on track.  If you need a couple of days off for a personal development boost, take them.  The important thing here is to keep focused on your goals as you work through your adversity.  Know that you will be back on track in full swing as soon as you are able.

We have no way of knowing what life will bring our way.  We do have the ability, though, to keep clear on where we are headed in spite of our current circumstances.  If you want to be successful in reaching your goals, do not allow your troubles to continually change the course you are on.

Now that you have accepted responsibility for your problems it is time to forgive yourself.  We get so caught up in constantly beating ourselves up that this can truly stop any progress we are making. 

If you know that you made a mistake which has created some unwanted adversity in your life, you have to forgive yourself before you can concentrate on making things better.  You are only human, you are entitled to make mistakes, even big mistakes.  These mistakes are not who you are, they are simply a wrong choice you made in the past.   

 If you wallow in the failures of yesterday, you will find yourself paralyzed with fear of making the same mistakes in the future.  When you forgive yourself you free yourself to move into the possibilities of the future, instead of being a slave to the problems of the past. 

Go ahead and look in the mirror right now and say I forgive you.  Free yourself for the brighter possibilities of tomorrow.

Have your troubles got you down?  Have you tried to look on the bright side?  I know sometimes it is hard to find, but it is there.  The Law of Polarity tells us that if something is difficult it is equally just as good.  There is no good or bad, everything just is.

 You must simply look for the opposite benefit of your adversity.  Let’s say for example you are going through a separation of a challenging long term relationship, the benefit here may be that you are now free to find a new rewarding, loving, nurturing relationship.

Sometimes the benefit is not so clearly apparent.  You may discover well after you have overcome the adversity that the benefit was how much you learned because of the experience.

The point here is that it all boils down to your perspective.  How you choose to view your situation will determine whether it is going to be a good or a bad experience overall.  I am not saying you won’t have challenges, but rather that you can choose to view those challenges as a horrible experience or an opportunity to learn and grow.

Everything just is, you decide whether you are going to view it as good or bad.  Always look for the good in every situation.

What did you do wrong?  That may be the first step in trying to overcome adversity in your life.  It is so much easier to blame outside circumstances, situations, and other people for our troubles, after-all, we certainly wouldn’t have done this to ourselves. 

The trouble with blaming everything else is that you did play a part in creating where you are right now.  You are responsible for you past, your thoughts, your emotions and therefore the results in you life.  Until you take responsibility you cannot begin to move past the adversity and fix your problems.

By giving away the blame, you are giving away the power over your own life.  Until you start to take responsibility you will always be the victim of your results.  You can free yourself by acknowledging your part in creating the circumstances in your life. 

Now you can begin to focus on how to go about moving forward in a positive direction.  After-all, you created this mess, so you can clean it up.