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A good attitude helps you and those around you - it sets you apart, it makes you memorable.  People want to be around people with useful attitudes.  This is essential when it comes to forming successful relationships in business and social environments.  Here are some tips to engage your useful attitude:

Know what you want - useless attitudes come from people who don’t know what they want, or they focus on what they don’t want.  This is never a recipe for success.  Get clear on what you want.  People who know what they want tend to get it because they’re focused on the positive.
 

Know your desired outcome - going into any situation, know what your desired outcome is.  If you’re expecting a confrontation with your boss as you go into the weekly meeting, you’ll likely get it.  However, knowing that you want to make a favorable impression so you’ll be noted for promotion will have you walking into the meeting smiling and prepared with all the relevant information you’ve been asked to provide.

Know what attitude serves you best - you know what you want, you know what your desired outcome is, now ask yourself what attitude will serve you best.  Is an attitude of cooperation going to represent your desired outcome, or will a creative brain-storming approach serve you better.

Refocus and Adjust - at first this process may seem a little awkward, but stick with it and soon you’ll be doing it naturally, without thought.  When you see yourself coming across in a way that doesn’t serve you, refocus your thoughts on what you want -  your desired outcome - and adjust your attitude to fit.

Your attitude is infectious - whether it’s a good or bad one.  The good news is, you’re free to choose what kind of attitude that reflects who you are - or who you want to be.

Attitude.  We see it in our body language, hear it in our tone of voice and feel it in our bodies.  Our attitude can attract or repel others and sets the quality of our thoughts, our relationships and our lives - it governs our success … or lack of it.

It stands to reason then,  that consciously adopting an empowering attitude would be the chosen course for most anyone in getting what we want.  So why don’t we?  For many, it could be that we don’t know that our attitudes may be hurting us.

How Your Attitude Shows

Your attitude controls your mind and your mind delivers the body language, tone of voice and the words you use.  When you’re happy, you look happy, sound happy and use happy words.  Your body just doesn’t know how to lie - it’s working behind the scenes, expressing your useful or useless attitude.

You’re in the grocery store, tired after a long day at work.  When you finally get to the checkout, the clerk responds to your “Hello, how are you?” with a frown and complaint about how tired she is.  She’s so busy telling the grocery bagger that she needs a vacation but she didn’t get the raise she asked for, that she doesn’t see she’s practically throwing your fresh produce to her co-worker.  This is a really useless attitude.

 

 The next check stand over, you hear the cashier greet her customer in a friendly voice, clearly smiling and interested in the shopper’s day.  You see the customer stand a little taller as some positive attention is directed her way.  As that customer walks away, you see a bright smile on her face.
 

 

 You can’t help thinking that you got in the wrong line.

Which person would you rather be - the disgruntled employee, or the happy and friendly cashier?  Which line would you prefer to be in? 

It’s okay to have ‘bad’ days - we all do.  Just remember to check your attitude before sharing it with others.  Next time, we’re share some tips  on how to cultivate a “useful” attitude.

Cultivating your inner environment for success is as easy as knowing what it is you want.  Sounds simple right? 

The hard part is developing the habitual way of thinking and being that supports you in that environment.  This is harder especially if you are surrounded by negativity and nay-sayers.  Just know that it is possible and you can do it.  Here are some steps to create your inner environment…

 

 

1. Identify the character traits you would need to have to be successful in this environment.  Let’s face it, who you are now has not gotten you to where you want to be.  That likely means doing something different, which begins with being someone different.  You don’t’ need a complete personal makeover, but some character traits and habits are likely going to have to change.  Do you need more discipline, organization, commitment, resourcefulness, etc.  Who do you want to become?

 

2. Build your character one trait at a time.  You know that list you just made of who you want to become?  Take one, any one trait and work on that for the next 30 days.  There has been significant research that supports a new habit takes 30 days to form - mainly because it takes 25-30 consecutive days for the brain to create a new neuro-pathway - to change a belief, a habit or to develop new ones.  In the most basic terms, your brain needs 30 consecutive days to ingrain the new path into your subconscious.  Once you’ve mastered something on your list, move onto the next one.  Success breeds success.

 

3. Feed your brain with healthy information.   With so much negativity available for us to choose from, monitor what you’re feeding yourself.  Every negative thing we hear and see becomes part of our reality, our environment.  Do a “news” fasting for 30 days and see how much better you feel about life.  Replace that tv time with reading something inspiring, learning something new, or thinking creatively.  Turn your commute time into a classroom - there are many programs and books on audio now.  Become a student of your own personal development - read, learn, apply.

Life is what you create it to be.  Once you really grasp that principle and take full responsibility for your life, your environment, your success, you will realize that the side effects of conscious living may include happiness!
 

Are you the smartest person you know?  Do you make more money than all of your friends?  If the answers to these questions are yes, it is time for you to make some new friends.

There is truth in the saying you are who you hang out with.  If the people who you associate with make an average of about $30,000. per year in income, it is safe to say that you make about the same.  If the people you hang around with are negative people who complain all the time, you probably do the same.

We are easily influenced.  You have probably already noticed that you talk the same and even use the same slang as the people you spend the most time with.  It is safe to even go so far as to say that you think the same way they do.

It is so important that we take a good hard look at our associations.  Do these people challenge my thinking in a positive way?  Are they supportive of my big goals and dreams?  Are they positive minded and forward looking?  Are they continuously making improvements in their own life, or are they content to be stuck in the same rut they have been in for years?

If you do have toxic people in your life, get rid of them.  If they are family members, you can at least limit the amount of time you spend with them.

Look to associate and build relationships with people who are doing what you want to do, successful people who you can learn from.  Become friends with people who are making the kind of money you want to make, or who are at least working towards the kind of success that you are working towards.

 You are who your friends are, so pick your friends very carefully. 

When we start to go through and create our daily routine of affirmations and new beliefs, we must be careful to add emotion to the mix.  It is easy to get caught up in simply reciting a list and creating this mundane daily experience which ends up meaning nothing to us. 

A great way to add emotion is to remember back to a positive and empowering experience in your life.  Recite your affirmation or new belief at the height of the feeling of the positive emotion from that experience.  This will allow you to link that great feeling to your new belief or affirmation. 

There are probably certain sights, sounds, scents, or feelings which your mind already links with that memory.  You can use these sensations to bring about the empowering emotions from that experience. 

We have all had great experiences of triumph and success, why not use these past experiences to help create new ones?  Relive the emotions that you experienced during these successful events, then link these powerful feelings to the affirmations and new beliefs you are imprinting in your mind.

Reciting your affirmations and beliefs will soon become a powerful emotional experience instead of an ineffective, mundane routine.

Do you always blame other people when things go wrong?  It seems to be the automatic thing to do.  We are programmed to see others mistakes as opposed to our own. 

But what is really happening when we blame others all the time?

 First, we are opening ourselves up to be blamed by others for their problems.  If you just got passed up for yet another promotion, you may want to blame the boss.  What happens when one day you are the boss?  Will you accept the blame from your employees for their lack of results?  If you are always blaming others for your problems, you will have to accept the blame from them for their problems. 

Second, if you are always placing the blame on other people, you are probably not very popular.  You may have even lost a friend or two because of arguments over whose fault it is.  Wouldn’t you be better served to take your share of the responsibility and work together to fix the problem?

Last but definitely not least, if you are always blaming everyone else,  you are giving up your control.  If someone else is creating your problems, then they are the only ones who can fix your problems.  Wouldn’t it be better if you had that power yourself?  The sooner you can acknowledge that you had a part in creating the mess, the sooner you can begin to fix it.

Although it may seem easier at the time to blame someone else for your problems, you are better off in the long run if you face up to them yourself.  Keep your integrity, keep your friends, keep your power and take your responsibility!

Do you live in the past?  Do the mistakes of yesterday haunt your tomorrow?  We have all made mistakes, but we don’t have to relive them.  Leave them in the past where they belong.

We are very often our own worst enemy, always beating ourselves up.  The key is to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you have made.  They are not who you are, they are simply something that you did.  If you keep reliving them in your mind, the law of attraction will think you want to relive them in your reality.

You have to let them go and stop focusing on them, free yourself to be the person that you want to become.  Your past mistakes should be viewed as merely a learning experience, a way of guiding you to steer clear of repeating them.  Just because you have made the mistake in the past, it doesn’t mean that you are the person that always makes that mistake. 

Even if it is a mistake that you have made repeatedly in the past, it is time to break the cycle.  Decide who you want to be today and focus on becoming that person.  Leave the past where it belongs, in the past.

With all the research into goal-setting, success, wealth and yes, the Law of Attraction, there’s more information now than ever in history on how to reach your goals quicker and easier than you ever thought possible.

ACCELERATE YOUR RESULTS

The subconscious mind is your most powerful tool in achieving success in any area of your life. Everything you are and will be is a result of your thoughts.  Your thoughts become your feelings.  Your feelings become your results.  In order to change your life, you’ve got to change the way you think.  This is where current research in Quantum Physics comes into play.  I won’t bore you with the details, but trust that these proven techniques will accelerate your results:

 ○ Write your goals out and read them daily
 ○ Visualize yourself having already achieved your goal - again daily
 ○ Create a vision board featuring pictures and words that represent you reaching your goal - review it daily
 ○ Repeat affirmations of success - take a negative belief about your success and turn it around into a statement of belief - repeat this several times a day
 ○ Inspire yourself by reading biographies of successful people, personal development books, audio and programs
 ○ Surround yourself with a powerful support network - this means limiting the amount of time you spend around negative people, environments and information - consider turning off the news

When you do what the successful do, you too will be successful.

We all have a set point in our minds which keeps us within our normal range or our comfort zone.  If you make a change in your life which takes you out of that comfort zone, this will send a signal out to your nervous system which your brain interprets as potential danger.  It will then prompt you to make the course corrections necessary to return you to your normal state. 

This works in a very similar way to the thermostat in your home, you set the temperature to whatever you want.  The heat or air conditioning will come on as needed to keep the temperature at the set point. 

So, how then do you change your temperature, or rather change your comfort zone? 

You can send messages to your subconscious mind to change your set point.  This is done by visualizing with the use of emotions what you want your new reality to be.  Your subconscious mind cannot decipher between reality and an imagined reality. 

With consistent and persistent daily visualizations, you will soon have a new set point/comfort zone which will move you closer to achieving your goals.

When faced with adversity in your life, you may find that it causes you to change your focus.  It may be difficult to keep your committments during your time of struggle.  You may even find that you get sidetracked from your goals.

Sometimes events in your life that are difficult require extra attention at least temporarily, but that doesn’t mean you have to completely stop all progress that you are making in reaching your goals.  A little action is better than no action.  If you have to cut the time spent on goal achievement drastically for a short time, it is still better than giving up on your goals altogether.

 Give yourself the time you need to get your life back on track.  If you need a couple of days off for a personal development boost, take them.  The important thing here is to keep focused on your goals as you work through your adversity.  Know that you will be back on track in full swing as soon as you are able.

We have no way of knowing what life will bring our way.  We do have the ability, though, to keep clear on where we are headed in spite of our current circumstances.  If you want to be successful in reaching your goals, do not allow your troubles to continually change the course you are on.