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Now that you have accepted responsibility for your problems it is time to forgive yourself.  We get so caught up in constantly beating ourselves up that this can truly stop any progress we are making. 

If you know that you made a mistake which has created some unwanted adversity in your life, you have to forgive yourself before you can concentrate on making things better.  You are only human, you are entitled to make mistakes, even big mistakes.  These mistakes are not who you are, they are simply a wrong choice you made in the past.   

 If you wallow in the failures of yesterday, you will find yourself paralyzed with fear of making the same mistakes in the future.  When you forgive yourself you free yourself to move into the possibilities of the future, instead of being a slave to the problems of the past. 

Go ahead and look in the mirror right now and say I forgive you.  Free yourself for the brighter possibilities of tomorrow.

When you have been wronged by someone in one way or another, it creates negative feelings inside of you.  You may be left feeling hurt, angry, frustrated, sad, or any combination of these.  So, how then would these feelings lead you to forgiveness?  The truth is they don’t. 

If we know the law of attraction, we know that like attracts like.  Bad negative feelings create more bad negative feelings.  It is therefore not realistic that these feelings that you are experiencing because you have been wronged in some way, will, all of a sudden, out of the blue, create a miraculous feeling of forgiveness inside of you.  Instead, these feelings will lead you the other way, to more intense negative feelings. 

You have to choose to forgive in-spite of those feelings.  This is a choice that you make because you recognize how bad you feel and realize that you don’t want to feel that way anymore.  Your feelings will then follow your decision.  Forgiveness brings with it relinquishment.  By making the choice to forgive, you free yourself up to let go of those horrible feelings and to feel good again.

Remember, forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself.  Choose to forgive and allow yourself to feel great again.