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We all have good times and bad times in our relationships, especially with our significant other.  It is so easy once things start going badly, to create a downward spiral of negative thoughts and feelings toward each other.  It may start with one partner finding fault with the other and therefore nagging the other about it, this usually just causes the faults to get worse and therefore the nagging to increase.  The longer the nagging increases the worse the faults become and therefore down the spiral they go.  This may seem like a lose-lose situation, but there is something that you can do.  In the self help book “Success through a Positive Mental Attitude” by Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone, it tells the story of a young man struggling in his marital relationship.  What the young man learns and which we all must learn is that when we are faced with misunderstandings with others, we first must start with ourselves.

When we find ourselves in that downward spiral and we explore our own mental attitude we will almost always find it to be negative.  If we can change our own attitude to be more positive, it will most certainly create more positivity in our relationships.  Often, if we fix our own problems we no longer have a problem with our loved one.  Although we cannot change others, by creating a positive mental attitude in ourselves, we create more positive and rewarding relationships.