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Do you always blame other people when things go wrong? It seems to be the automatic thing to do. We are programmed to see others mistakes as opposed to our own.
But what is really happening when we blame others all the time?
First, we are opening ourselves up to be blamed by others for their problems. If you just got passed up for yet another promotion, you may want to blame the boss. What happens when one day you are the boss? Will you accept the blame from your employees for their lack of results? If you are always blaming others for your problems, you will have to accept the blame from them for their problems.
Second, if you are always placing the blame on other people, you are probably not very popular. You may have even lost a friend or two because of arguments over whose fault it is. Wouldn’t you be better served to take your share of the responsibility and work together to fix the problem?
Last but definitely not least, if you are always blaming everyone else, you are giving up your control. If someone else is creating your problems, then they are the only ones who can fix your problems. Wouldn’t it be better if you had that power yourself? The sooner you can acknowledge that you had a part in creating the mess, the sooner you can begin to fix it.
Although it may seem easier at the time to blame someone else for your problems, you are better off in the long run if you face up to them yourself. Keep your integrity, keep your friends, keep your power and take your responsibility!
