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Golf — Now there is a way to spend a couple of hours excercising your ability to pay attention to and control your feelings. Especially the ones that produce those nasty limiting beliefs we keep writing about.
I am not a golfer — not by even a stretch of anybody’s imagination. As a matter of fact I usually call it “Swish — Darn — Drag Your Bag”. On Sunday however, I was invited for a round of golf by a good friend that I used to work with and had been missing for a while now. He is a good golfer, retired and when we worked together was really a surrogate Father for me. You know what I mean I hope, he was someone I could depend on for advice in life situations and he never hesitated to give it — just like Dad.
When we got to the golf course it was really busy and because it was just the 2 of us, we were asked to be accompanied by another couple of people. Wonderful people and again pretty good golfers. Enter my first Limiting Feeling of the day:ought:
I can’t golf with these people — I will just delay and hold them up — which I was able to relpace with:
Even though I am unable to golf as well, I am so grateful that they will be able to give me some great tips and that they are so understanding.
What is amazing is that they were very understanding and they did offer some great tips. As a matter of fact for every ball I hit over the fence they found 2 for me as they assisted me in looking for mine. That in itself empowered me to develop an allowing statement of:
Many people are hitting golf balls out of bounds, just like me!
I wasn’t the only one hitting them over the fence and out of bounds and I knew it because I had the proof — there were a ton of lost balls in those woods.
As you can imagine, there were a ton and I mean a ton of limiting beliefs and feelings about my golf game as I progressed through the day. Because of my experience with being a student of personal development, I was able to recognize them and re-phrase them as a positive statement instead of a negative statement.
To the unseasoned person of Personal Development the first 9 holes were disastrous and a non-believer would think — there I told you — that stuff doesn’t work. The second 9 holes however proved my knowingness that controlling your feelings and your limiting beliefs is absolutely transformational. All of a sudden I was hitting my drives straight, or at least straighter, I wasn’t losing my ball anymore and I was able to at least keep up. I actually shaved over 10 strokes from the front nine — now that felt good!
Had I not been able to control my feelings I would have been an emotional wreck by the 6th or 7th hole and not enjoyed a single minute of the game. The folks I golfed with all mentioned what a great attitude I had about being so bad at the game. I think that was a compliment.
