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Although it doesn’t feel like it when you are dealing with adversity, there is always a bright side and in the words of a friend of mine, when dealing with adversity, persistence removes resistance.

There are some people in history that prove the above statement.  I will introduce you to a couple of folks that dealt with their adversity in a fashion that has put them in the History books.  Have a look around your life — your circle of influence and your role models and you will find other proof of the law of Polarity when it comes to the adversity people face.

2 people that have overcome tremendous adversity:

1. failed in business — bankruptcy in 1831
2. defeated for Legislature in 1832
3. Fiance dies in 1835
4. nervous breakdown in 1836
5. defeated in Election, 1836
6. defeated for Congress, 1843
7. defeated again for Congress, 1846
8. defeated again for Congress, 1848
9. defeated for Senate, 1855
10. defeated for Vice President, 1856
11. defeated for Senate, 1858
12. Elected President of the United States of America in 1860

– Abraham Lincoln

And another:

1. born 1880
2. became ill at 19 months of age (unknown disease)
3. became blind and deaf
4. became first blind and deaf person to earn a Bachelor of Arts Degree
5. Became a renowned writer
6. became a renowned lecturer
7. was awarded the Precsidential Medal of Honor by President Lyndon Johnson
8. 1965 elected to the Women’s Hall of Fame at the New York World’s Fair

– Helen Keller

These are just 2 of the examples of people that understood the Law of Attraction.  Both realized that you must be bigger than your problems, more powerful than any circumstances in your life.

“It has been my philosophy of life that difficulties vanish when faced boldly”

~~Isaac Asimov

“Worry doesn’t help tomorrow’s troubles, but it does ruin today’s happiness.”
~Unknown

Do you know anyone who is a worry wart?  Has their worrying gotten out of control?  Are they driving you and others crazy with their worrying?  Could this possibly be you?  There’s still hope….

The majority of what we worry about we have no control over because it involves other people or situations.  You can’t change other people or make things happen when it involves anyone other than you.  This is wasted worry time.

Considering that time is the one commodity that you can’t buy, rent, trade or borrow more of, doesn’t it make sense to reclaim as much of this asset as you can?  How do you do that?  Take a different approach to your worries …

Release worries that you have no control over.  Have you ever worried about a loved one because they’re ill, been injured or just because you think they’re making bad choices?  This is an example of having no control over the outcome.  Does it lesson your worry knowing this?  Probably not.  However, you can choose what to think - worry (which is getting you nowhere) or a positive belief that all will be well.  A positive belief will make you feel better and will send out positive energy to the other person.  This leaves you free to focus on your own personal growth and allow others their own journey.

Another major topic of worry falls into the “needless” category.  This includes what other people think of you, being late, arguments and conflict that haven’t happened….you get the picture.  Should you really allow these minor issues to occupy space in your brain?  Let it go - you have much bigger fish to fry - like going after your dreams and creating a life for yourself that means something.

This is a worry-free zone!

Do you have a vision board?  You know a board where you have pictures of the “things” and the experiences that you want.  All of the personal development gurus will tell you that the vision board is an important part of your ability to move forward toward your goals….. and they are right.

Just having the board and the fancy pictures however is not good enough.  After all, you can sit and stare at the board all day long, waiting for the Universe to deliver all of those things into your world.  That delivery isn’t about to happen though, until you are ready, you are prepared and you put the following 4 other ingredients into your vision board and your goals:

1.  You have to have a true burning desire to possess the item, or to experience the feeling,

2.  You have to believe that you deserve it,

3.  You have to decide that you are going to achieve it,

4.  You must take the actions that are required to get it done. 

Without these 4 other ingredients, your vision board is just a picture board.  A vision board is designed to empower your belief systems into achieving, through desire, decision, belief and action.  A life coach can mentor and guide you in the process.

Taking part in some life coaching will allow you to learn how to put some focused energy into your wants, needs and desires.  Developing your belief structure and realizing your limiting beliefs is where that process excells.   A life coach will empower you to achieve all that you can believe.

Tip number six on how to use stress to further your personal growth involves using the law of attraction.  Once we get to the root cause of the stress in our lives, we can identify what is not working and therefore what we don’t want.  Now we can use contrast through clarity to figure out what we do want.

 Let’s say you are extremely stressed out because you are really unhappy in your career.  You now can use this as an opportunity to sit down and write out on one side of a sheet of paper all of the things that you don’t like about the job; maybe your boss doesn’t appreciate you, or you aren’t paid well enough, or you don’t feel fulfilled in your work.

Now you can go through each of the items listed on the one side, cross them out and write the opposite or what you do want in a career, on the other side of the sheet of paper.  Examples of the opposite of the above issues could be: my boss expresses his appreciation for my work on a regular basis, I am blessed to be receiving a rewarding and competitive compensation for my job, my work is both fulfilling and rewarding.

Now that you know what you do want you can begin to focus on it, and take action towards achieving it.  The law of attraction can begin to do it’s job in bringing it to you.

One more tip to go.  Stay tuned.

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
~Napoleon Hill

The Law of Attraction is so powerful that it can deliver literally everything we want in life.  It’s true!  If you can think it and believe it, you can absolutely achieve it.  So why don’t more people realize their dreams?  Simple - it’s expectation.

You see, many of us think about what we want, dream about what we want, but don’t actually believe it’s possible.  We expect that we’ll fail.  We expect to be disappointed yet again.  So guess what?  We’re right.

Expectation fuels motivation, excitement and success.  Would you work towards something if you believe you won’t get it?  What a colossal waste of time!  However, if you knew you’d be successful, wouldn’t you get excited and be motivated to work towards your goals?  Absolutely!

You have the choice and the power to control your thoughts.  Having that choice, doesn’t it make better sense to choose to believe in possibilities?  Doesn’t it make better sense to tell yourself and believe that you can have anything you want? Doesn’t it make sense to have faith and believe in yourself and this great Universe.  Given that you can hold only one thought at a time and negative thoughts are just taking up valuable space in your mind,  wouldn’t you choose to affirm what you want and believe it’s possible?

We now know that with consistent affirmations and visualizations, combined with the proper training, repetition and coaching, that anyone can achieve their goals and live their dreams.

Expect Success!

Sometimes you will think that an expected situation is one where you will be able to spend some time on you and maybe even give your loved ones a bit of a break.  However, once you get into that situation you quickly realize that, what was anticipated to be a warm and friendly environment, quickly turns into a negative and scary one.

This is exactly where I found myself over the last couple of weeks.  I had been waiting for a surgery to fix my bad leg, and I had been waiting for a very long time so I was very happy and grateful when the call came and I was scheduled for the operation.  It was finally happening, I was going to be blessed with a healthy leg, body and I would recover very quickly.  My beautiful wife and I would be on the dance floor in no time — CHA, CHA, CHA!!

I was almost looking forward to the short stay in the hospital — 3 days was all.  I packed my bag with all of the neccessities — ipod with audio books, my favorite personal development books, notebook and a couple of pens just in case.  I was full of intention to work on my own personal growth and transform anybody that crossed my path.

I quickly realized that this was a very different world than my own protected little environment that we had created at home.  These were some stressed and negative people and I mean everybody, from my room-mates to the staff that were so stressed because of being so short handed.  I was so grateful for my mindset going in as it empowered me to fall back on all that I have learned with the Law of Attraction and Life Coaching.

My surgeon sat on the side of my bed 2 days after I got there, looked me in the eye and told me that the surgery did not work — he was going to go and re-do it, try and fix it but his words to me were — if it did not work the first time, it probably won’t work the 2nd time.  In my heart and mind, I knew that it would work and never gave up that belief.  I told him — you do the surgery and it will work this time.  It did.

I am so happy and grateful to be back home, in my “comfort zone”, with the people I love and cherish.  My ability to draw upon all that I have learned over the last few years was instrumental to my ability to handle and deal with the last few weeks.  I hope this article may inspire you to ensure that even though you are in your “comfort zone” right now, be prepared for when you have to leave it.  Get yourself armed with the belief structure and mindset that will allow and empower you to do whatever you want — live from the inside out!!

Tip Number five about how to use stress in a positive way relates to stress caused by fear.  Prolonged fear can be incredibly stessful. 

Often times if we know that there is something that we need to do which we are nervous or frightened about, we are consumed with anxiety about it.  The quickest and easiest way to eliminate these negative feelings is to just face your fear head on.  Whatever it is that you are scared to do, just do it and get it over with.  Why torment yourself with negative feelings of stress and fear any longer than you have to? 

The reality is that once you complete the feared task, you will most likely be filled with an incredible feeling of empowerment.  The sooner you get it done, the sooner you get to stop feeling bad and start feeling like the powerful person that you are.

If whatever is causing the fear is something that is coming up in your future that cannot be taken care of now, you can still eliminate the stress now by simply living in the present.  Let the future take care of itself.  Many times we look at the road ahead of us and question our ability to handle what may lie ahead.  The truth is we are more powerful than we sometimes realize, we can always handle our current circumstances.  When we get to the dreaded future task, we will be ready for it.

Stay tuned next week for the final two tips on how to use stress to further your personal growth.  

Tip number four on how to use stress as a means to further your personal growth is to use it as an opportunity for change.  We obviously have the choice to makes changes in our lives at any time, it does not have to be during a stressful time.  Change can be difficult and uncomfortable so many of us will not make a positive change until the stress has become unbearable.

You may realize that you hate your job, or you are unhappy in your relationship, but it is all part of your routine.  It is comfortable.  It may appear easier to stay at the job or in the relationship than to make the bold move of walking away. 

Until the stress of the horrible job or the unhappy relationship gets to an unbearable point, you may just continue to live in that miserable existence.  The stress can therefore be your friend as it motivates you to take that courageous action you need to become happy again. 

Once you recognize that the lesser of the two evils is taking action to improve your life instead of staying unhappy, you free yourself to live the life you truly deserve.   The change may be difficult and uncomfortable, but the long term rewards will far out-way the discomfort.  You will be free to find a more rewarding or fulfilling job, or a more positive, nurturing relationship.

The bottom line is stress can be your friend if you let it.  Stay tuned in for Tip number five on how to use stress in a positive way.

This just came across my desk in a Law of Attraction kind of way.  How’s that, you ask?  I’ve been thinking lately that we should really de-clutter our whole house as we’re in the process of selling it.  We’ve actually been in that process for 10 months now.  I know, I know - the market is slow.  I don’t buy into that really because houses are selling every day and every day people are finding the house of their dreams.  That’s what we’re offering - a home of their dreams.  So what’s the hold up?  My answer came across my desk today in the form of “Principle of Emptiness’ by Joseph Newton….

Think…

Have you got the habit of hoarding useless objects, thinking that one day, who knows when, you may need them?

Have you got the habit of accumulating money, and not spending it because you think that in the future you may be of want of it?

Have you got the habit of storing clothes, shoes, furniture, utensils and other home supplies that you haven’t used already for some time?

And inside yourself…?  Have you got the habit to keep reproaches, resentment, sadness, fears and more?

Don’t do it!  You are going against your prosperity!

It is necessary to make room, to leave an empty space in order to allow new things to arrive to your life.

It is necessary that you get rid of all the useless things that are in you and in your life, in order for prosperity to arrive.

The force of this emptiness is one that will absorb and attract all that you wish.

As long as you are, materially or emotionally, holding old and useless feelings, you won’t have room for new opportunities.

Good must circulate … Clean your drawers, your wardrobes, the workshop, the garage …

Give away what you don’t use any longer …

The attitude of keeping a heap of useless stuff ties your life down.

It’s not the objects you keep that stagnate your life ….

But rather the attitude of keeping …

When we keep in store, we consider the possibility of wanting, of penury …

We believe that tomorrow it may lack, and that we won’t be able to fulfill those necessities …

With that idea, you are sending two messages to your brain and to your life:
 That you don’t trust tomorrow…
 And you think the new and better are not for you

For this reason you cheer yourself up by storing old and useless stuff.

Get rid of what’s lost it’s color and brightness …

Let the new enter your home … and yourself.

May prosperity reach you soon!

This is a poem I have always found to be a great illustration of personal growth, because it shows in a few very short lines the power each of us has to transform our lives just by taking responsibility for our choices.

AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS
by Portia Nelson

I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.

II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

V
I walk down another street.