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We all have beliefs that are holding us back in life, many times we don’t even know where they came from.  They were usually passed on to us by our parents, our teachers or others when we were very young.  It is natural for us to want to protect our beliefs, so we tend to not even question or challenge them at all.  We simply have always believed them, so they must be right.   The problem is that if our beliefs are in conflict with our goals, we will not be able to achieve our goals.  It is crucial to our personal development that we learn to identify these limiting beliefs and replace them with new, positive and supportive beliefs. 

The first step is to identify the beliefs that are holding you back in life.  Take a good long look at your life and specifically the problematic areas.  Now, you need to identify any beliefs that you have which could be affecting those areas of trouble.  For each one of your damaging beliefs, write the opposite, positive, supportive belief.  In order to train the mind to change the belief from the old to the new, we must bridge the gap.  This is done by the use of phrases such as ’Even though’ or ’In the past’ or ‘I am in the process’.  So an example of your new belief statement would be ’Even though in the past it was hard for me to lose weight, I am now in the process of losing weight with ease’.

 Now that you are armed with your new bridge belief statements, repitition is key.  You must spend time repeating and affiming the new beliefs everyday.  With consistent and persistent repitition of your new beliefs, you will be on your way to the achievement of your goals.      

If you’ve ever watched an eagle soaring overhead for any length of time, you’ll eventually see crows circling and tormenting the eagle.  I’ve often wondered Why?  This morning as I sat enjoying a warm breakfast with my favorite man, looking out over our little slice of paradise (green fields, cascading ponds, flowers blossoming) we saw an eagle overhead.  It had been a few months since we had seen one here.  Sure enough, the crows soon followed.  I watched as the eagle majestically landed on one of the highest branches in the tree, 1/4 mile away.  With binoculars in hand, I witnessed that elegant creature being dove at like a kamikaze pilot and littered with endless “caw caws”.   She sat there as regale as the queen she is.

It suddenly occurred to me why I’m drawn to the beauty and harshness of the eagle.  She sat there focused on her goal, overlooking her territory of prey, undaunted by the onslaught of distractions and obstacles bombarding her.  She knew her purpose, and with conviction born of generations of instinct instilled in her DNA, she kept her keen eyes on her goal - the prey she would soon find and capture to feed her and her eaglet.  She didn’t think, when will I find it, it’s not showing up, what will I do if it doesn’t, will I starve, will my baby starve, what will the other eagles think.  Her clarity of purpose was clearly the cause of her success as she swooped down to collect her prize.

We all have distractions and obstacles in our lives.  Being absolutely clear on what we want, staying focused on that purpose will undoubtedly deliver us to where we want to be.  No exceptions - it happens every time.

What do you want? Positive Mental Attitude will take you where you want to be.  That is a statement that you will hear over and over made by the various personal development gurus and it is very true, but in order to get where you want to be, you need to know where that is don’t you?  

I talk to people all the time that say they want financial freedom and I ask them – how do you define that? How much money does it take for you to achieve financial freedom?  Usually there is no definitive answer.  The same goes when people say that they want to find the perfect soul mate or spouse.  The question becomes well – how do you perceive the perfect spouse?  Responses will be things like tall, slim, charming, witty and so on…. 

I consider myself to be tall, slim, charming, and witty but my beautiful wife (my perfect soul mate) would argue at least a couple of those points.  So now the question becomes – how do I determine exactly what it is that I want.  Note here that it is exactly – not sort of.

For those of us that “buy into” the Law of Attraction, this becomes relatively simple and we do it by developing clarity in our minds about exactly what it is that we want to attract.  The only way to develop absolute clarity is to focus on what it is that we do not want in our lives.  Clarity through contrast. 

Focus on the negatives, just long enough to identify them and then to redefine them into a positive.  Take your past relationships, or your current financial situation, or your current health or any other area of your life that you want to change and list out all of the things that you absolutely dislike.  Now one by one replace them with a positive statement of how you would like that trait to be.  Physically crossing off the negative will instill a very positive reaction in your mind.

Here are some examples:
My last spouse was controlling would become my ideal spouse is very well balanced and understanding.

I want to lose weight would become my ideal weight is 180 lbs.

I just want to pay my bills on time would become my bills are always paid on time.

These kinds of statements will put positive feelings in your mind and we already know that positive feelings create positive thoughts which force positive action and therefore produce positive results.  It is truly all in the vibration you provide to your universe.

Have you ever wondered why two similar people can experience the same adversity in their lives and have very different results.  The same adversity or challenge can be completely devastating for one person , yet another person uses it to rise above to greater success.  First of all adversity is similar to beauty, it is in the eye of the beholder.  What one person perceives as a challenge, another will view as a great opportunity to learn and grow.  As said by Andy Andrews in “The Traveler’s Gift”, “Adversity is preparation for greatness, I will accept this preparation…. I will be prepared for something great”.

You see the choice is ours how we view our troubles in life.  We can either wallow in self pity and choose to try to forget our mistakes and life challenges, or we can observe them in order to find and learn the lesson they present.  We are all going to experience adversity in our lives, that is inevitable, so why not use these challenges to further our personal growth.  By making the choice to learn from the experience, you will make it easier to overcome similar adversity in your life.  Make the choice to learn from your challenges to give yourself a brighter more successful future.

One of the first requirements when deciding to live the life of your dreams, become all that you have the burning desire to become and attain all that you have aspirations for is to become a student of Personal Development.  The place to start is to develop an understanding of the various “laws” of the universe and the first and foremost is the law of attraction.

Things simply change for people once they learn about and more specifically “buy into” the Law of Attraction.  People find that they simply have a better understanding of how and why things happen to them and as a result they decide to take action in their lives, to live a life of design, their design.  They put the Law of Attraction to use, attracting opportunities, goals and aspirations into their lives instead of lowering their expectations. 

There is a very simple definition for the Law of Attraction:

You will attract back into your life what you give your attention, energy and focus to. 

Unfortunately, there is another part of the sentence that most people leave out and as a result never realize the full potential of this powerful and universal law and that is, whether positive or negative. 

The full definition is as follows:

You will attract back into your life what you give your attention, energy and focus to, whether positive or negative.  You see how you are feeling right now develops a thought and your thought initiates an action which in turn develops a result.  There are many books, audios and training material on the Law of Attraction.  One that I recommend the most is “Law of Attraction – the science of attracting more of what you want and less of what you don’t” by Michael J. Losier.

We all have good times and bad times in our relationships, especially with our significant other.  It is so easy once things start going badly, to create a downward spiral of negative thoughts and feelings toward each other.  It may start with one partner finding fault with the other and therefore nagging the other about it, this usually just causes the faults to get worse and therefore the nagging to increase.  The longer the nagging increases the worse the faults become and therefore down the spiral they go.  This may seem like a lose-lose situation, but there is something that you can do.  In the self help book “Success through a Positive Mental Attitude” by Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone, it tells the story of a young man struggling in his marital relationship.  What the young man learns and which we all must learn is that when we are faced with misunderstandings with others, we first must start with ourselves.

When we find ourselves in that downward spiral and we explore our own mental attitude we will almost always find it to be negative.  If we can change our own attitude to be more positive, it will most certainly create more positivity in our relationships.  Often, if we fix our own problems we no longer have a problem with our loved one.  Although we cannot change others, by creating a positive mental attitude in ourselves, we create more positive and rewarding relationships.