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Comment on Love and Adversity by Kikolani | Poetry, Photography, Blogging Tips

Kikolani | Poetry, Photography, Blogging Tips — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 17:15:55 +0000

Condolences for you and your wife’s loss. There is nothing more wonderful in a time of mourning to have the person you love comforting you. I recently lost my grandmother, and my fiancé was nothing but supportive and amazing, listening to me and just giving me a shoulder to cry on.

~ Kristi

Comment on Are You Reliving Your Past? by Kikolani | Poetry, Photography, Blogging Tips

Kikolani | Poetry, Photography, Blogging Tips — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 17:03:47 +0000

I never thought of it that way, in terms of the laws of attraction bringing past events into current ones. I guess that is what happens when people think they will have the same experience as they always have in the past with certain things… they just bring it on themselves.

~ Kristi

Comment on Love and Adversity by SSG

SSG — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 09:28:19 +0000

hey, hugs to you both. You sound like a really great couple, supporting each other. Sorry for the loss of your mother-in-law.

Comment on The Action in Law of Attraction by SSG

SSG — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 08:37:24 +0000

I like your blog and way of thinking, really positive!

Comment on Tug-of-War by SSG

SSG — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 09:04:51 +0000

Hey, thanks for stopping round my blog, really positive, helpful advice, thank you! I’m new to blogging and it really helps when people from all over the web stop by, so thank you agaiN!

Comment on Why and How Should I Journal? by Kikolani | Poetry, Photography, Blogging Tips

Kikolani | Poetry, Photography, Blogging Tips — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 05:50:18 +0000

I have a good habit of writing journal entries, but a bad habit of where I write them. Some go in Word documents, others in Gmail drafts, backs of receipts, notebooks or yellow pads at work,and so on. I buy tons of journals, write a few pages in them, and then abandon them again. But I do write often, I guess that is all that really counts.

~ Kristi

Comment on Deliberate Creation by Bruno LoGreco

Bruno LoGreco — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 11:51:18 +0000

Envision what it is you want - no matter how impossible you once thought it would be, think about it seven times throughout your day - let your imagination run wild - the more vivid your thoughts are, the closer to reality it will be. When you go to sleep that night, you will imprint the image into your brain- The more times you think positive, the greater the chances of deleting the negative imprints, the closer you become to living your dreams.

Comment on Are You A Worry Wart? by Dr Beverly Potter

Dr Beverly Potter — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 15:44:09 +0000

Wonder what a “worrywart” is and if you truly are one?

The job of worry is to anticipate danger before it arises and identify possible perils, to come up with ways to lessen the risks, and to rehearse what you plan to do. Worrywarts get stuck in identifying danger as they immerse themselves in the dread associated with the threat, which may be real or, more likely, imagined. They spin out an endless loop of melodrama, blowing everything out of proportion. “What if I have a heart attack?” “What if there is an earthquake?” “What if someone breaks in when I’m asleep?”
While worrywarts insist worrying is helpful, little is solved. Stuck in thinking ruts, they stop living in the here and now–the present moment. Worrywarting is torment–a kind of self-imposed purgatory that makes you feel bad, stresses you out, and wastes precious moments of your life.
Worse yet, worry begets more worry, setting into motion a vicious circle of frightening thoughts and anxious response. It is self-perpetuating, pushing into greater anxiety and more worry. Allowed to continue unchecked, chronic worry can evolve into panic attacks and, in extreme cases, agoraphobia, which is a paralyzing fear of having a panic attack, especially in public. It can be so severe that, in the worst cases, the sufferer can’t leave home. Sometimes panic attacks can be so extreme that the worry-victim thinks he or she is having a heat attack and is rushed to the hospital in an ambulance.

Trying to stop worry is usually futile. Instead, we need to become “smart worriers”. Smart worriers do the work of worry and then they soothe themselves to get back to balance. Smart worriers designating a time and place to worry in order to contain it. After the worry session they employ one of the below techniques to back to balance.

I’ve identified 21 ways to soothe yourself and worry smart.

1. Evaluate the cost of the worry
2. Take a deep breath
3. Relax your muscles.
4. Distract yourself.
5. Take a walk.
6. Smile and laugh.
7. Say a little prayer.
8. Find the joy.
9. Avoid caffeine.
10. Shoulds to preferences.
11. Count worry beads.
12. Eat a sweet.
13. Take a warm bath.
14. Imagine a happy ending.
15. Do a good deed.
16. Joke about the worry.
17. Rock yourself.
18. Count your blessings.
19. Make a list.
20. Practice under-reacting.
21. Watch a funny movie.

For more information about smart worry and other self-management techniques, visit my site.

Comment on It is Time for a Change by Kristi @ kikolani.com

Kristi @ kikolani.com — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 22:41:45 +0000

In the past year, stress was the reason I made a lot of big changes in my life. I changed my diet to vegetarian because of health problems, took the steps to initiating and finalizing my divorce, and changed jobs. In the end, it paid off in my health is so much better than it used to be, I met and am now engaged to the perfect man for me, and I am at a better paying job that ultimately saved me from staying at a company that is now suffering a lot of layoffs. So jumping out of the situations I felt comfortable in and venturing into new territory paid off exponentially well.

Comment on The Importance of Choices by Kristi

Kristi — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 19:54:42 +0000

That is so true. If we don’t learn from our past mistakes, or if we allow them to become habit, we will never get past them to where we want to be.