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As we all know, it is not a matter of if we will encounter adversity in our lives but when.  Whether it be financial, the loss of a loved one, health or any other form we always find out where we sit within our various relationships.  The reactions and the actions of those around us, especially the really important people such as our spouses or our other family members have a great impact on our ability to adapt to and overcome the troubles we are experiencing.

Nothing new here, but let’s apply the law of polarity to this for a moment.  What about when the people around us that we adore and love are going through some very trying times?  Are we being the best husband, wife, father or friend we can be?  What if it was us going through that and the people around us were still demanding the love and friendship that we were getting when times were great?

My wife and I have been through absolute thick and thin together.  She has been there for me, through medical, financial, family and the loss of loved ones and for that I give her a virtual hug as I right this post.  Now as she reads this post and deals with her family and the loss of her wonderful and beautiful Mother, my wife can know that I am there for her.

We can both be proud of how we deal with the adversities we are challenged with, personally and as a couple.  We both would give you the same answer when asked how we do it — our studies of Personal Development and using our mindset to overcome any adversity we are faced with.

When you click on the link above (mindset to overcome any adversity), you will be re directed to a registration page.  From there you are able to register for a free tele-seminar that is dedicated to assisting people in developing their own mindset and overcoming their own adversity.

There are times in any relationship, that the other person will get on your nerves.  Have you ever experienced this?  There’s someone very close to you - a husband, wife, other family member or friend - and they’ve said something that upsets you, or they behave in a way that you really don’t like.   The problem is, they’re a huge part of your life and you love them - you just don’t like them very much right now.

Here’s a great tip on how to handle these situations.  Make a list of all the things you like about the person.  Are they funny, do they tell great stories, are they great listeners?  How about the times they cheer you up or the great parties they have.  Everyone has great qualities and if they’re in your life, there’s something about them that you can appreciate.

By focusing on all the things you love about the person, you’ll shift from being irritated or upset with them, to being grateful for having them in their life.  Gratitude is the most powerful method of attracting great things into your life.  You may also consider sharing that list with the person in the form of a gratitude card.  It will make both of you feel good and the other person will focus too on all the great things you feel about them.

Knowing that the law of attraction brings to us what we put our focus and energy to, you’ll soon start seeing more of the qualities you love about that person being brought out in your interactions with them.

We all have good times and bad times in our relationships, especially with our significant other.  It is so easy once things start going badly, to create a downward spiral of negative thoughts and feelings toward each other.  It may start with one partner finding fault with the other and therefore nagging the other about it, this usually just causes the faults to get worse and therefore the nagging to increase.  The longer the nagging increases the worse the faults become and therefore down the spiral they go.  This may seem like a lose-lose situation, but there is something that you can do.  In the self help book “Success through a Positive Mental Attitude” by Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone, it tells the story of a young man struggling in his marital relationship.  What the young man learns and which we all must learn is that when we are faced with misunderstandings with others, we first must start with ourselves.

When we find ourselves in that downward spiral and we explore our own mental attitude we will almost always find it to be negative.  If we can change our own attitude to be more positive, it will most certainly create more positivity in our relationships.  Often, if we fix our own problems we no longer have a problem with our loved one.  Although we cannot change others, by creating a positive mental attitude in ourselves, we create more positive and rewarding relationships.