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There are 2 outcomes from worrying:
 1. You’ve worried for nothing because your worst worry didn’t come true
 2. You’ve worried so much that your worst worry did come true

In either scenario, you’ve wasted so much precious time and happiness on worrying.  You’ve made yourself miserable and undoubtedly many people around you.

Worrying is a learned behavior - a habitual way of thinking and being.  If you understand the Law of Attraction, consider that your constant worrying may actually bring about that which you’re worrying about.  If that doesn’t stop you in your tracks, then what I’m about to share won’t help you.

We have remarkable ‘thinking’ power.  In fact, we’re discovering just how much our thoughts create our reality. When you find yourself worrying, immediately change that worry to thoughts of the best possible outcome.  Distract your brain by submerging yourself in positive books, audios, and programs or listen to music that makes you feel good.  You can only hold one thought at a time - choose an empowering one over one that doesn’t make you feel good.

Like learning to ride a bike, this may seem awkward at first.  Very soon though it will become a habitual way of thinking that helps you break free of the worry cycle and reclaim your life.
 

“There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.”
~Harold Stephens

We all have worries - also known as fear.  It’s what we do with them that will determine the outcome.  The outcome determines the course of our life.  We determine how our lives will look.

Worries fall under 2 categories:
- That which we have no control over
- That which we can control

Since you can do nothing about the ones you can’t control, let them go and focus on what you can control.

Confront your worries head-on. What are some possible solutions?  Just putting yourself into problem-solving mode will remove or lesson your anxiety.

You’ve just brainstormed some solutions. If a decision needs to be made, make it.  It’s likely that after you make a decision, some kind of action is required.  Take that first step towards your solution. You’ll find that what you were worrying about was not worth your time after all.  Action is the antidote to fear and worry.

Taking responsibility for our thoughts, choosing to think empowering thoughts, and participating in our own personal growth is how you determine how your life will look.

Back and forth I roll each night
Tossing and Turning until morning light
My mind is racing two and froe
Trying to solve all my problems and woes
 
How do the successful keep
All their troubles from letting them sleep?
Maybe they have found a way
To keep their negative thoughts at bay
 
My mind is consumed with thoughts of a dear loved one who is ill
And wondering how I am going to pay my bills
If only I could get these worries out of my head
What I wouldn’t give for just one peaceful night of sleep in my bed
 
What do the successful do?
Surely, they have worries, woes, and troubles too
Have they found a way to program their mind
With love, happiness, and positive thoughts of like-kind?
 
If it’s true that only one thought occupies the mind at a time
To waste my thoughts on worry truly is a crime
Maybe I shall try that now
To Think of all the love and joy in life I have found
 
With these thoughts I know that everything is alright
As I awaken by the morning’s light
No more sleepness nights for me
Thoughts and feelings of gratitude have set me free
 
So if your worries are keeping you up at night
Instead be grateful for the blessings in your life
For that is what the successful do
And Yes You can do it too

You feel it creeping up on you like a bad dream. With one small thought, it starts in the pit of your stomach as a flutter and quickly builds momentum to debilitating fear.  You can’t move.  You can’t breathe.  You’re caught in a trap, held hostage from your life …

Why do we worry?  Why do we spend so much time thinking about the worst possible outcome of a situation, only to realize that our fears were completely unfounded?  Why do we entertain those cursed “what ifs”?

- What if I get into a car accident?
- What if I lose my job?
- What if I lose my house?
- What if I get sick and can’t pay the bills?
- What if my husband/wife leaves me?
- What if I fail?

Less than 5% of what we worry about are things that we have control over.  We certainly have no control over the “what ifs”.  How could we - they haven’t happened yet!

Since we can choose to think and believe anything we want, why not choose to believe a “what if” outcome that makes you happy instead of worried?  If this is a new concept to you, empower yourself by learning more about how your thoughts become things.  There are many law of attraction, self-help and personal growth books that can help you form a new positive thinking habit.
 

“Worry doesn’t help tomorrow’s troubles, but it does ruin today’s happiness.”
~Unknown

Do you know anyone who is a worry wart?  Has their worrying gotten out of control?  Are they driving you and others crazy with their worrying?  Could this possibly be you?  There’s still hope….

The majority of what we worry about we have no control over because it involves other people or situations.  You can’t change other people or make things happen when it involves anyone other than you.  This is wasted worry time.

Considering that time is the one commodity that you can’t buy, rent, trade or borrow more of, doesn’t it make sense to reclaim as much of this asset as you can?  How do you do that?  Take a different approach to your worries …

Release worries that you have no control over.  Have you ever worried about a loved one because they’re ill, been injured or just because you think they’re making bad choices?  This is an example of having no control over the outcome.  Does it lesson your worry knowing this?  Probably not.  However, you can choose what to think - worry (which is getting you nowhere) or a positive belief that all will be well.  A positive belief will make you feel better and will send out positive energy to the other person.  This leaves you free to focus on your own personal growth and allow others their own journey.

Another major topic of worry falls into the “needless” category.  This includes what other people think of you, being late, arguments and conflict that haven’t happened….you get the picture.  Should you really allow these minor issues to occupy space in your brain?  Let it go - you have much bigger fish to fry - like going after your dreams and creating a life for yourself that means something.

This is a worry-free zone!