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“Every problem is a question trying to ask itself…
Every question is an answer trying to reveal itself…
Every answer is an action or way of life trying to show up.”

 

~ Michael Beckwith, Spiritual Leader - Agape Live

Face the adversity in your life head-on and ask better questions:

 - What does this adversity mean; what’s the lesson here?
 - What course correction do I need to make?
 - What habits to I need to change or replace?
 - What gift am I ignoring that is trying to express itself?

Or maybe the adversity is really just a signal to do something that you’ve always wanted to do, but never gave yourself permission to do.  The world is full of thousands of people that have re-defined their lives while in the midst of personal turmoil - death of a loved one, divorce, financial ruin - the result?  Happier, more fulfilling and rewarding lives!

When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Get Going

You’re a person of power - or rather empowerment.  Just like your physical muscles, your empowerment muscle needs exercise. You do this by acting on inspired thought.  Remember those great questions you asked?  By focusing on the right questions instead of trying to “fix” the problem, insight will now come to you in a way that you’ll understand.  Acting on that inspired thought not only builds your empowerment muscle, but it will amaze you how life answers come back to you in a miraculous way.

Becoming

Life is about becoming.  Becoming the person you were meant to be, living the life you were meant to live.   Adversity comes into our lives to grow us to the next level - to become more of ourselves. 

When you approach adversity, not as obstacles in your path but as stepping stones, you open yourself up to your own personal growth and the treasure it holds.  The adversity in your life can give birth to a whole new way of living.  One that’s based in abundance principles instead of scarcity thinking!

Stay awake, stay aware.  Never let crisis go to waste.

Adversity - it’s inescapable!  We don’t welcome it, we try to avoid it, and often ignore it as if wishing it away would actually make it disappear.  What if you could turn the tables on your adversity and come out winning, stronger than ever?

Do you feel like your inner light is very dark?  Do you feel like you’re ready to implode with the stress of your adversity?  Know that you’re not alone, especially in this time of a global financial shift.  Many others are experiencing the same kind of adversity that you are - right now.  That doesn’t make the adversity miraculously disappear, but it can give you a sense of support and community that will help you overcome this adversity and regain strength and hope.

Understanding Adversity

Change is difficult for most of us, and facing adversity even more difficult.  It’s not surprising then that adversity usually means change - change in circumstances or an inner change…or both.  For many, the tendency is to ignore the adversity and pretend it doesn’t exist.  This is one of the biggest mistakes we can make when it comes to dealing with the adversity in our lives.

Adversity and the obstacles in our path are here to teach us.  When we ignore the lesson we’re just inviting more of the same - except harder and stronger.  It’s like refusing to keep up with the maintenance on your car - regular oil changes and scheduled maintenance.  The “service engine” light comes on and you ignore it.  Your car starts to make unusual sounds and you ignore it.  Then, one day when you have a really important meeting, your car just dies on the freeway!  You think it’s because you have bad luck, but it’s really because you ignored the messages.

What else in your life are you ignoring?  Your relationships?  Your finances?  Your health?

Take stock of what’s not working in your life right now.  Next time we’ll talk about a new approach to adversity that will change everything!

Understand that adversity will always be a part of your life.  You can choose to allow it to help you learn and grow, or let it stop you from living the life that you want.  It takes courage and the belief that anything placed in your path can be overcome.  You can!  You just need to believe it.  Here are some steps to take when you find yourself confronting adversity:

Acknowledge the adversity.  Sweeping adversity of any kind under the carpet just means you’ll be dealing with a bigger mess in the future.  Acknowledge it’s something you have to deal with now.  

Take responsibility.  This one change in mindset will naturally put your subconscious mind into solution mode.  If you’re open to solutions, you’re not brooding about the problem.  

Brainstorm.  Make a list of everything you can think of that you can do to overcome the adversity.  Write down anything that comes to mind, however silly it may seem.  By taking a solution approach, you’re telling your subconscious mind that you are open to possibilities that you haven’t considered.  Please note - this exercise isn’t meant for you to come up with the definitive solution.  It’s an exercise in mindset shifting.

Take Action.  Take any one item from your list and act on it now.  If that means making a phone call for more information, do it.  It may also mean asking someone else for help.  Whatever it is, taking action sends a message to your subconscious mind that says you’re in solution mode and ready to overcome this adversity.

Listen to your intuition.  Your subconscious mind knows you’re serious about finding a solution that moves you past this adversity.  It will go to work on possibilities that you may not have readily thought of.  Be open to your intuitive nudges - that unscheduled stop on the way home from work, that phone call to an associate you haven’t talked to in some time, buying that new book a friend just told you about.  These are messages pointing you in the right direction.

Trust and believe.  This is the hardest part for many people.  You would think it’s coded in our DNA to worry over things and create stress in our lives.  We know it to be a learned behavior - this means it can be unlearned, or rather swapped with trust and belief.  Trust that your answers will come and be open to receiving them.  Believe that all that is happening in your life, good and not so good, is there to serve you.  That means that all is well, all is as it should be.

Give thanks.  When times are particularly rough for us, it’s hardest to express gratitude for the blessings in our lives.  Often, it’s because we’re focusing on all the negative things.  Turn your focus to what you genuinely feel grateful for - your family, a warm house, food on the table, your friends, your pets - you get the picture.  Gratitude is a powerful force that when practiced daily, from the heart, has the power to bring miracles into your life.
 

All the adversity we experience is here to help us learn and grow, and most importantly, to become the person who we want to be, doing the things we love to do, having the things and experiences as a result of who we’ve become.  This is the path in life for every one of us.  Awareness of the meaning of adversity opens up the tool box of solutions to overcome them.  You’re humbled when you break through the barrier of adversity because you see the simplicity of the lesson learned and what a gift it has been to have experienced it.

The most common type of adversity, is the one you experience when you’re on the wrong path. This happens when your choices, your actions and your behaviors are different from what would better serve you to get what you want. 

^{Brian had made it a habit to put away 10% of his income away until he had a nest egg equal to 6 months living expenses.  This is a sound principle his father had taught him. However, when a great deal came up on a boat he wanted to buy, he dipped into his reserve fund and purchased it.  He and his wife had great jobs and life was good.  He told himself he could build up the fund at a later time.  As time went on, the cost to run and maintain the boat became greater and greater and he started charging on his credit cards. This was his first message to make changes.  Then he lost his job when his company downsized.  This was his second message to make changes.  As his stress grew, he charged even more on his credit cards.  Eventually, his debt was unmanageable, their savings were gone, and his relationship with his wife was suffering.  He wasn’t paying attention to the feedback in his life.}

Brian woke up to the message that his choices, actions and behaviors were not getting him closer to the financial independence and stability he wanted.  He made some changes and started paying attention to his feedback.  Now he has a new job - better pay, better work, better hours.  He managed to keep his home and improve his relationship with his wife.  Brian attributes this turn around in his life to becoming aware of the messages he receives - the feedback - and taking right action for different results.  The boat?  Well, he sold that, put the proceeds in his reserve account, and set a goal to buy a sail boat in the next 10 years - one that both he and his wife will enjoy and fits in their financial plan.

You too can learn to read the messages in your adversity to make course corrections on your path.  Everything you want is yours for the taking - if you do things the right way.

Next time you’ll learn the steps to overcome the adversity in your life.

Have you been thinking “My life is a mess!”?  If so, you’re probably so overwhelmed with all the garbage that’s entering your life, wondering when it’s going to stop, that you can’t see any way out. 

Take comfort…the path to a happier, more balanced, less stressful, abundant life is yours for the taking.  You just need to be aware of what to do.

What’s Really Going On?

Understanding what adversity means actually helps you deal with it better.  Have you ever heard people say, “If I just knew what was going to happen (keeping your job vs. being let go), I could deal with it much better.”  You may not know the outcome of a situation, and not knowing is certainly the cause of much unnecessary stress, but understanding the reason or cause of a situation WILL open the door to your answers. 

Adversity comes into our lives as feedback that you’re on the wrong path - your decisions, your choices, your actions, your behaviors.

Knowing this, it’s then fairly simple to take a different approach…what’s the message here? Take some time to think about the adversity in your life right now.  What message is it bringing you?  Is there some different action you could take?

Next time, we’ll explore how you can use this knowledge to your advantage.

Ever hear the expression in sports that the best defense is a great offense?  All of the really good sports coaches understand, and so do Life Coaches.  What it boils down to, is simply taking on the challenges, the issues, problems and concerns head on.  It is simply then a case of ensuring that you are consistently living a win win life. 

Expressing gratitude for what you have, for the loved ones in your life, for the warmth of the love and endearment you are experiencing on a daily basis are the goals, home runs and touchdowns of life.  Once you develop the ability to challenge your adversity with wins you have a simple formula:

Adversity combined with action and the tools taught through your studies of Personal Development will always equal one of two things, if not both:

1.  Success, or

 

2.  Gratitude.

Living your life with a win win philosophy, regardless of the challenges, trial or tribulations will always empower you to create a win.  Feel free to join us for a free tele-event where we will be sharing the philosophies of overcoming adversity and developing a successful future.

When faced with adversity in your life, you may find that it causes you to change your focus.  It may be difficult to keep your committments during your time of struggle.  You may even find that you get sidetracked from your goals.

Sometimes events in your life that are difficult require extra attention at least temporarily, but that doesn’t mean you have to completely stop all progress that you are making in reaching your goals.  A little action is better than no action.  If you have to cut the time spent on goal achievement drastically for a short time, it is still better than giving up on your goals altogether.

 Give yourself the time you need to get your life back on track.  If you need a couple of days off for a personal development boost, take them.  The important thing here is to keep focused on your goals as you work through your adversity.  Know that you will be back on track in full swing as soon as you are able.

We have no way of knowing what life will bring our way.  We do have the ability, though, to keep clear on where we are headed in spite of our current circumstances.  If you want to be successful in reaching your goals, do not allow your troubles to continually change the course you are on.

Adversity comes in many forms - conflict at work, an unhappy relationship with your significant other, money issues (or lack of) to name a few.  But what about the adversity within us - the relationship we have with ourselves.

We have about 70,000 thoughts per day.  Many of those thoughts are conversations that we have with ourselves.  The amazing thing is that many of those conversations are negative - that was stupid, why did I say that, I’m fat,  why do I always do that, they don’t like me - you get the picture.

We beat ourselves up over the smallest perceived infraction and wonder why our lives aren’t working. 

Successful people have learned to overcome the adversity in their lives, and that includes the inner conflict we’ve all experienced.  There’s a small but profound difference between the successful and unsuccessful….

 - Successful people use adversity as an opportunity to learn and grow
 - Successful people use 3 Universal laws to turn adversity into victory
 - Successful people cultivate a healthy relationship with the most important person in their lives

Everyone can be successful when they learn how to think, act and be.  Come join us for a FREE Tele-Event where you will see first hand how the adversity in your life is just a stepping stone to the life of your dreams.

I came across this recently and it reminded me that everything worth pursuing in life, is worth being important enough to push through the adversity that comes up during the ride to success.

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won if he’d stuck it out.
Don’t give up, though the pace seems slow -
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are -
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit -
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

~Author Unknown

Learn powerful tools to overcome the adversity in your life.  Click here to register for a FREE tele-seminar that will change the way you think, feel and act when adversity comes into your life.

As we all know, it is not a matter of if we will encounter adversity in our lives but when.  Whether it be financial, the loss of a loved one, health or any other form we always find out where we sit within our various relationships.  The reactions and the actions of those around us, especially the really important people such as our spouses or our other family members have a great impact on our ability to adapt to and overcome the troubles we are experiencing.

Nothing new here, but let’s apply the law of polarity to this for a moment.  What about when the people around us that we adore and love are going through some very trying times?  Are we being the best husband, wife, father or friend we can be?  What if it was us going through that and the people around us were still demanding the love and friendship that we were getting when times were great?

My wife and I have been through absolute thick and thin together.  She has been there for me, through medical, financial, family and the loss of loved ones and for that I give her a virtual hug as I right this post.  Now as she reads this post and deals with her family and the loss of her wonderful and beautiful Mother, my wife can know that I am there for her.

We can both be proud of how we deal with the adversities we are challenged with, personally and as a couple.  We both would give you the same answer when asked how we do it — our studies of Personal Development and using our mindset to overcome any adversity we are faced with.

When you click on the link above (mindset to overcome any adversity), you will be re directed to a registration page.  From there you are able to register for a free tele-seminar that is dedicated to assisting people in developing their own mindset and overcoming their own adversity.