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When we say our life isn’t working, what we’re really saying is that there’s something in our lives that isn’t working - another direction we’re drawn to, or elements that hold us back from living our purpose. If you’re feeling this way, question what doesn’t make sense in your life.

In order to make the changes that will make a meaningful difference, we must first understand where we are right now, and how we got there. It’s almost like taking a spectator approach to the movie of our lives, and reporting back on it.

- What’s your life like right now - the good and the bad?
- How does it make you feel?
- What circumstances and choices brought you there?
- How many of the circumstances in your life keep you from feeling good?

This awareness process is so very important in identifying what’s not working for us, what doesn’t make sense. So often we don’t even recognize the subtle things, the habits, the routines that are keeping us stuck and make us feel like life isn’t what it’s supposed to be. By consciously putting our attention on it, in a non-judgmental way, we can begin to change the things, circumstances and habits that block us from living a happy, fulfilling and meaningful life. Isn’t that what we all ultimately want?!

Now that you know what’s been happening, promise yourself that you’ll take some time to listen to what your inner voice is trying to tell you. Journal about your life this next week and identify those things that you can change. You’ll be amazed at what you learn about yourself and how easily what doesn’t make sense, can change.

Is there something in your life that you want to change? Chances are the answer is yes! Most of us have something that we want to change - sometimes we don’t know what that is, just that we want a change. What I mean is, something in your life may feel uncomfortable or like something is missing, but you can’t quite put your finger on it.

Regardless of what change we seek, it all starts with Awareness. After all, how can you change anything if you’re not aware it needs changing, or that it even exists? Here’s an example…

You get in your car every weekday morning to start your commute. It’s a long and frustrating one and you always arrive at work aggravated and tense. You don’t even realize you react this way until one day while refilling your coffee, a co-worker mentions how tense you are and asks what’s going on. You suddenly realize that it’s your daily commute that has you bottled up every day. Your co-worker suggests an alternate route that’s virtually traffic free. Another co-worker who overhears your conversation suggests adjusting your work schedule - come in 1/2 hour earlier and leave 1/2 hour earlier - bypassing the worst traffic times of the day.

Before you had this conversation, you weren’t aware of how the tension from the commute affected you during the drive, before the drive, all day at work, and when you got home. By becoming aware of the circumstances that created that uncomfortable feeling inside, you can now be open to finding the solutions that better fit with what you want.

Think about that … open your mind to what’s going on in your life and how you react to it. You’ll begin to see the things that keep you stuck. Once identified, your world opens up to the infinite possibilities that bring the change you seek - consciously or subconsciously.

Do you live in the past?  Do the mistakes of yesterday haunt your tomorrow?  We have all made mistakes, but we don’t have to relive them.  Leave them in the past where they belong.

We are very often our own worst enemy, always beating ourselves up.  The key is to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you have made.  They are not who you are, they are simply something that you did.  If you keep reliving them in your mind, the law of attraction will think you want to relive them in your reality.

You have to let them go and stop focusing on them, free yourself to be the person that you want to become.  Your past mistakes should be viewed as merely a learning experience, a way of guiding you to steer clear of repeating them.  Just because you have made the mistake in the past, it doesn’t mean that you are the person that always makes that mistake. 

Even if it is a mistake that you have made repeatedly in the past, it is time to break the cycle.  Decide who you want to be today and focus on becoming that person.  Leave the past where it belongs, in the past.

Ever hear the expression in sports that the best defense is a great offense?  All of the really good sports coaches understand, and so do Life Coaches.  What it boils down to, is simply taking on the challenges, the issues, problems and concerns head on.  It is simply then a case of ensuring that you are consistently living a win win life. 

Expressing gratitude for what you have, for the loved ones in your life, for the warmth of the love and endearment you are experiencing on a daily basis are the goals, home runs and touchdowns of life.  Once you develop the ability to challenge your adversity with wins you have a simple formula:

Adversity combined with action and the tools taught through your studies of Personal Development will always equal one of two things, if not both:

1.  Success, or

 

2.  Gratitude.

Living your life with a win win philosophy, regardless of the challenges, trial or tribulations will always empower you to create a win.  Feel free to join us for a free tele-event where we will be sharing the philosophies of overcoming adversity and developing a successful future.

This is a poem I have always found to be a great illustration of personal growth, because it shows in a few very short lines the power each of us has to transform our lives just by taking responsibility for our choices.

AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS
by Portia Nelson

I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.

II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

V
I walk down another street.

The mind works in mysterious ways doesn’t it? 

When you start to study it, even on a very very basic or “layman’s” level you become absolutely amazed at the power it holds.  It really has 2 parts:

1.  The conscious mind — the thoughts actions and feelings that you are aware of, and

2.  The sub-conscious mind — thoughts actions and feelings that you need not be aware of.  These are just handled by your brain for you.

Are you aware that the conscious mind only handles around 2 - 4% of your daily activity, and your subconscious mind filters through and handles the other 96 - 98%?  This is an amazing thing when you really sit and consider it.  After all, your subconscious is where your knowledge base is — it is where you go to recall things that you know.  It is also where your beliefs are.  You never sense something and have to consciously figure out if you believe it or not — you either do or you don’t.

This is all accomplished in conjunction with your Reticular Activation System, which for lack of a better term is a filter.  It determines whether or not the thought you are having matches the belief stored in your mind.

So — what happens when you have a million dollar idea?  Does your “filter” take that idea and file it away under unbelievable because you believe you will never earn a million dollars?  For most people, that is exactly what happens.

For those of us that are real students of our own Personal Growth, we realize that true change is accomplished by changing our beliefs and how they are stored within our knowledge database.  Getting involved in a personal coaching program will empower you to learn exactly how to change your limiting beliefs.

The key slips effortlessly into the ignition, you turn it clockwise and the engine roars to life, the little dashboard lights come on, as they are suppose to and everything looks fine. You release the brake, shift into reverse and notice the brake light is still on. You reach down and pull the lever to be sure it is disengaged…lights still on, “wonderful”. You turn the key counterclockwise and the engine stops…wait a few seconds and bring it back to life…lights still on.

OK, not a big deal, but now you notice another light…little round circle with the letters ABS inside…what the heck is this? Turn the engine off again..on again..of again…on again..stupid lights are still on.

Truck is running, gas gauge is registering, RPM dial seems to be working, oil pressure up, battery gauge, arrow in the middle…we’re off, what could possibly be wrong?

Maybe there is a short and the lights are stuck on..could we be that lucky?

Three miles down the road..AARRKKK..another light comes on..this one makes you realize there is definitely a problem somewhere…CHECK ENGINE..not a good sign.

A mile from home you look down to see how fast you are going and notice that the speedometer isn’t registering anything, but, of course this is not a major catastrophe, since you never really look at that thing anyway.

Made it home, slip into the drive and shut of the offending lights. Grab the owners manual and start wildly thumbing through the pages…the answer must be in here somewhere.

After twenty minutes of trying to make sense of this easy to understand book, you come to the conclusion that the anti-locking brake system (probably something to do with the hydraulics), is causing the brake light and ABS light to stay on and the CHECK ENGINE light being on, means the whole thing is ready to blow, or who the heck knows what’s wrong.

Does this scenario remind you of anything else?

Is your life running a little sluggishly? Maybe you haven’t had a reality check in a while, and it’s time to think about where you are going and is this the direction you envisioned when you set that goal. Are you making progress towards the goal or dream, or are your warning gauges about to come on and bring you to a screeching halt?

There is no owner/operator manual you can grab to find the answers, but life coaching can help you get the sludge out of your life, turn the warning gauges off and show you how to make progress towards that goal and dream.

We all have beliefs that are holding us back in life, many times we don’t even know where they came from.  They were usually passed on to us by our parents, our teachers or others when we were very young.  It is natural for us to want to protect our beliefs, so we tend to not even question or challenge them at all.  We simply have always believed them, so they must be right.   The problem is that if our beliefs are in conflict with our goals, we will not be able to achieve our goals.  It is crucial to our personal development that we learn to identify these limiting beliefs and replace them with new, positive and supportive beliefs. 

The first step is to identify the beliefs that are holding you back in life.  Take a good long look at your life and specifically the problematic areas.  Now, you need to identify any beliefs that you have which could be affecting those areas of trouble.  For each one of your damaging beliefs, write the opposite, positive, supportive belief.  In order to train the mind to change the belief from the old to the new, we must bridge the gap.  This is done by the use of phrases such as ’Even though’ or ’In the past’ or ‘I am in the process’.  So an example of your new belief statement would be ’Even though in the past it was hard for me to lose weight, I am now in the process of losing weight with ease’.

 Now that you are armed with your new bridge belief statements, repitition is key.  You must spend time repeating and affiming the new beliefs everyday.  With consistent and persistent repitition of your new beliefs, you will be on your way to the achievement of your goals.