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Ever hear the expression in sports that the best defense is a great offense?  All of the really good sports coaches understand, and so do Life Coaches.  What it boils down to, is simply taking on the challenges, the issues, problems and concerns head on.  It is simply then a case of ensuring that you are consistently living a win win life. 

Expressing gratitude for what you have, for the loved ones in your life, for the warmth of the love and endearment you are experiencing on a daily basis are the goals, home runs and touchdowns of life.  Once you develop the ability to challenge your adversity with wins you have a simple formula:

Adversity combined with action and the tools taught through your studies of Personal Development will always equal one of two things, if not both:

1.  Success, or

2.  Gratitude.

Living your life with a win win philosophy, regardless of the challenges, trial or tribulations will always empower you to create a win.  Feel free to join us for a free tele-event where we will be sharing the philosophies of overcoming adversity and developing a successful future.

Coaching is a goal-oriented way for its clients to practice personal accountability for what happens in their lives.  It focuses on the desired outcome of the client and separates that goal from her own interpretations about herself and her life. The client has already surmised that the current interpretations are not serving him well, so coaching will empower him to try new methods that are aligned with his motivation to reach his full potential.

Transformational coaching is an accurate term, because this type of coaching centers on the states of being that generate actions, which move the client either closer to or further away from her desired goals.  Shifting how an individual is being rather than focusing on what he is doing inspires transformation, because the way he is being is transferable to every other aspect of his life.  In so doing, the client’s perspective broadens, allowing more possibilities to exist.

Tip number two on how to use stress as a personal growth tool, is to allow stress to motivate you to make a positive change in your life.  Nobody likes feeling stressed out, so why not use those feelings as motivation to remove them from your life. 

In many cases it is these negative feelings that are the most powerful motivators for change.  We should all be able to live in a happy and relaxed state of mind.  When stress starts to rule your life, know that you deserve to feel better. 

The important thing to remember is that you must get to the root cause of the stress in order to eliminate it.  If you don’t know what is wrong, how are you going to be able to fix it?  If you just simply need a break then  go for a walk, or meditate, or listen to a nice piece of music.  Hiding behind things such as overeating, smoking, taking drugs or alcohol is just going to make matters worse in the long run. 

Remember prolonged stress can be a contributing factor to depression, anxiety and many health concerns.   Do not accept it as part of your everyday life.  Know that you deserve better.  Your life coach may be able to help you identify where the problem lies, and to help you get back on the right track.

Are you a procrastinator?  I think it is safe to say that we are all guilty of this at one point or another, some of us are definitely worse than others.  It is so much easier to say that you will do something later than to actually get off your behind and get it done now.

In “Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude” (an incredible book by Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone) they give us a great suggestion of a self motivator DO IT NOW!  When you have something in mind that you want to accomplish, just do it now.  Don’t wait until later today when you feel up to it, or tomorrow, or the next day, DO IT NOW!  A great way to practice this is to begin with the little things.  You will soon develop a habit of taking immediate action which is a powerful reflex response.

You can also find an accountability partner, a life coach is a great example of this.  If you make a committment to yourself to accomplish something within a week’s time, you are much more likely to get it done if you know you have someone else to answer to.  We tend to hold our committments to others at a higher degree of importance than our committments to ourselves.

When I decided to implement these techniques into my day to day life, I quickly found myself actually getting stuff done, instead of just talking about what I am going to get done.  I would love to hear your comments and suggestions about how you combat procrastination in your life.

I must admit when I first heard about life coaching, I found the idea a little ridiculous.  Why would I need a coach to help me live my life when I already know how to live it?  It wasn’t until I actually put my skepticism aside and joined a coaching program, that I was able to understand, appreciate and even experience the benefits of having a life coach.

The purpose of a life coach is similar to that of a coach for a sports team, to keep you motivated, guide you through the steps required to achieve your goals, and to help you ultimately win the game.  The game in this case is your life.  Your life coach is unbiased and is therefore the best person to keep you in integrity to yourself.

A life coach is there to help you to identify where you are currently at in each area of your life, and then to guide you through identifying the steps required to get you where you want to be in each area.  Your coach will help you make a plan to achieve your goals and keep you accountable for sticking to the plan.  There may even be areas of your life that need attention that you haven’t even thought about, your coach will have you exploring these areas as well.

I have personally experienced breakthroughs in many areas of my life thanks to my life coach.  My life is now on purpose, my why, my vision, my goals are clearly defined, I will win the game!

For many of us, dreams are just that…dreams.  What successful people know is that to create the life of your dreams you must have a support network to help you get there.  Here’s why…

Chances are that you are conditioned to believe something about yourself that limits you from achieving what you want.  That’s right - your beliefs have a lot to do with what you will and won’t achieve in your life.  Here’s where your support network comes in.  When you surround yourself with people who believe in you (often more than you do in yourself at the moment), then you’ll subconsciously reprogram your thinking to believe that you too can achieve your dreams.

Support networks come in many forms.  Here’s just a few that you can tap into:

Life Coaching helps you overcome possibility blindness by opening your eyes to your own unlimited potential and guides you though your success blueprint.

Support Groups put you in a group of like-minded people all working towards a common or similar goal.  Group coaching is another example of this.

Mentors come in many forms.  You’ll know it when you come across one because they awaken you to your possibilities and are shining examples of what you too want for yourself.  These people aren’t necessarily ones you know personally.

Supportive Friends and Family - where “supportive” is the key word.  You want to spend time with people who want you to be successful, not those that hold you back.

Considering that you are your community, your thoughts, your actions and feelings are very much a result of the people you spend the most time with.  You owe it to yourself to make your precious time well spent, surrounded by an empowering environment and limit the negative ones. You’ll feel so much better about yourself and will be in a position to pass that feeling onto others…perhaps be a mentor to someone else.

People deserve to believe in themselves don’t you think?  As you answer that question consider another: Do you believe in yourself?  The answer to that question lies very deeply within  your mind, it is a sub-conscious decision to believe in yourself. Your ability to believe in yourself needs to be determined through identifying your limiting beliefs, how you feel about yourself.  You see you can say, consciously, that you do but if your sub-conscious mind is saying different then there is an issue. 

How do you feel when it comes to prosperity?  Do you believe you deserve prosperity in all aspects of your life?  Do you believe that you deserve the perfect relationship?  Do you deserve to be healthy or how about deserving that promotion you are after?

A life coach has the ability to extract those limiting beliefs and bring them to the surface.  The only way to regain control in your life is to take control of your belief structure.  If you are questioning your actions, or question whether or not you deserve the expected result from an action then your ability to perform that action to it’s fullest potential is diminished greatly.

Have you ever played the Kerplunk game?  It is a great tool for realizing the effects of your limiting beliefs on your goals and aspirations.  Kerplunk is a child’s game.  Envision a plastic tube about 4 inches in diameter and around 10 inches in height, standing vertically.  Half way down the cylinder the plastic tube gets intersected with many pixie sticks and marbles get put through a hole in the top.  The end result at the beginning of the game is marbles sitting atop pixie sticks half way down the center of the plasitic cylinder.  The object of the game is to remove the pixie sticks until the marbles fall and the winner achieves the most marbles. ( I hope that paints a good picture for you )

Now let’s consider that the pixie sticks are your limiting beliefs, and the marbles are your goals and aspirations in life.  The more you believe in yourself, the more limiting beliefs (pixie sticks) you remove, allowing your goals and aspirations (the marbles) to flow.

Thanks to Michael Losier of the Law of Attraction Book for this descriptive tool.

Believe and you will achieve.